I have finally gotten to a point where I’m just starting to feel comfortable owning my age. 25, 35, whatever…if you look good and feel great what’s the difference?! Experience. That’s really it. You’ve gone through shit, you’ve lived and learned. It’s funny how years in a busy city seem to fly by. I’ve been fortunate to have accomplished so many amazing things since moving to LA. But when you’re chasing a dream, it’s never enough time. My career was always my number one priority and everything else took a back seat. It never felt like the right time for me. I had so much more I wanted to accomplish! When everyone was getting married and having kids, I felt like I was just figuring my life out and feeling good about where it was heading!
I say all of this to tell you… please don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re too late! Too late to get married, start a family, create a business, whatever the fuck you want to do, DO IT! YOU HAVE TIME! Society makes us feel like there is an expiration date on females in their 30s.
I recently just shared on my IG that I’ll be turning 40 in June and my IG was blowing up! The response I got from you girls was amazing! In one way it was the best compliment I’ve ever gotten in my life. And in another, I’ve never felt so close to the females that follow me. It just goes to show you that so many of us feel this same way. I love that my message resonated with so many of you. I just felt like I was ready to own my age and not apologize for it, THIS IS ME! It’s the best feeling to know that we are all in this together because I am so tired of people age-shaming women. Let me proudly say that there is NOTHING wrong with getting married and starting a family in your late 30s or even early 40s or whenever you want.
I totally get that some days are better than others. Some days, I could be feeling confident, very IDGAF what anyone thinks, and strong. And other days, not so much. But getting to the point where I’m comfortable owning my age, I’ve developed some solid things I do to keep my confidence up. And I’m so ready to share them with you!
My Top 3 Confidence Tips
1. Look Good, Feel Good
For me, when I’m looking good, I’m feeling good! And this doesn’t mean you have to look like you’re ready for a red carpet every day. It could be as easy as putting on some tinted moisturizer and bronzer. When I take the time, even if it’s 10 minutes, to put myself together, I feel accomplished and ready to take on the day! And I’m doing it for me, not anyone else. Here are my favorite self-care tools that WORK, baby.
2. Move Your Body
Working out at the gym or dance studio helps my mindset. It gives me the release I need. All of the endorphins I get from working out seriously help my overall mood, which gives me space to focus on the good, and not all of the stressful things going on. Nothing like pushing yourself and feeling amazing!
3. Spend Time with Your People
Spending quality time with the people in my life that lift me up, support me, and are always there regardless of whatever is going on totally fills my cup and makes me feel good. There is nothing worse than being with a group of people who (intentionally or unintentionally) make you feel like shit. It’s SO important to take a step back and evaluate the people in your life and who you’re spending the most time with. Do they encourage you? Do you walk away from time spent with them feeling amazing? Find your people and stick with them!
I can’t wait to keep the conversation going on this topic of owning our age. We are badass women and we got this! What are some of the things you do to stay confident? I would love to hear them! Share them with me in the comments below!